Is permissable for a man who has two wives to request from the first one to seek his permission everytime she leaves the house and when someone is coming to the house even if it were one of her family member and not request it from the second wife?.
Praise be to Allaah.
One of the rights that the husband has over his wife is that
she should not go out of his house except with his permission or let anyone
into his house except with his permission.
The evidence for the former is the report narrated in
al-Saheehayn about the slander incident (al-ifk), in which
‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said to the Prophet (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him): “Will you give me permission to go to my
parents?” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4141; Muslim, 2770.
Al-Iraqi said in Tarh al-Tathreeb (8/58): Her saying,
“Will you give me permission to go to my parents?” indicates that the wife
should not go to her parents’ house except with the permission of her
husband. End quote.
See also question no.
The evidence for the latter is the words of the Prophet
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): “No woman should fast when her
husband is present without his permission, and she should not allow anyone
to enter his house when he is present without his permission.” Narrated by
al-Bukhaari, 4899; Muslim, 1026.
The correct view is that the husband does not have the right
to prevent his wife’s parents from visiting her unless he thinks it most
likely that their visit will result in trouble and harm. See question no.
It is not obligatory to treat co-wives the same with regard
to what is mentioned above. In the case of one of them going out of his
house without his permission there may be the possibility of harm or trouble
or temptation, or he may be very protectively jealous for her, or there may
be other reasons that make the man resort to such a thing, so he makes her
ask permission before going out, but he does not require that of the other
wife. The same may be said concerning the issue of visits.
What matters is that the husband should not seek thereby to
harm his wife or hurt her and make things difficult for her, because that is
contrary to the good treatment that he is enjoined to give her.
And Allah knows best.