My question is in reference to the sunnah of shaving the underarms and the
pubic region. At what age should we instill this practice with our children who may have reached the stage of puberty? May Allah guide us in seeking this knowledge in Islam.
Praise be to Allaah.
The child – male or female – needs to know about this ruling
when he or she approaches the age of puberty and when you think that this hair, which has
been made one of the signs of puberty, and which we have been commanded to remove for the
sake of tahaarah (purity), cleanliness and good health, has started to grow. You could
introduce this idea gradually in the context of other points and ideas that the child
needs to know and be reminded of as he or she approaches the age of puberty, such as the
meaning of takleef (accountability), the rights of Allaah over a person, the duties
of the person who has reached the age of accountability, the fact that his or her evil
deeds will be recorded from puberty onwards, and the rules of ghusl for janaabah
(impurity), etc. If the parents find it embarrassing to talk about this subject directly
with the child, they can give him or her a book or pamphlet about the rules that have to
do with puberty. And Allaah is the source of strength.