The husband gets angry when his wife gives birth to a girl

 

The husband gets angry when his wife gives birth to a girl

Some of the Muslims, may Allaah guide them, get angry when Allaah blesses them with daughters, and they get very upset when a daughter arrives. I also know someone who has threatened to divorce his wife if she produces a daughter. I hope that you can shed some light on this topic from the point of view of Islamic sharee’ah.

 

Praise be to Allaah. 

Undoubtedly
this action is one of the deeds of the first Jaahiliyyah, from the conduct
of its ill-mannered people, those who were blamed and condemned in the
Qur’aan and Sunnah.

How
similar things are today to those times. If you visit any maternity
hospital in a Muslim country, and look around at the faces of those
to whom daughters have been born, listening to what they say and seeing
how they are, you will see a strange similarity between many of these
people and the people of the Jaahiliyyah, of whom Allaah says (interpretation
of the meaning):

“And
when the news of (the birth of) a female (child) is brought to any of
them, his face becomes dark, and he is filled with inward grief!

He
hides himself from the people because of the evil of that whereof he
has been informed. Shall he keep her with dishonour or bury her in the
earth? Certainly, evil is their decision!”

[al-Nahl
16:58-59]

One of the manifestations of this dislike of daughters
is that in some hospitals, when they find out whether the foetus is
male of female by doing an ultrasound scan, if it is male they tell
the family, and if it is female they say nothing. This is a very serious
matter from which stem a number of haraam things, including the following:

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It implies objecting
to the decree of Allaah.

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It is a rejection
of the gift which Allaah has given, instead of thanking Him for it.
This is sufficient to earn Allaah’s anger and expose one to punishment.

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It involves humiliating
the woman and putting her down, and putting unbearable pressure on her.

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It is an indication
of foolishness, ignorance, stupidity and a lack of reason.

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It implies resemblance
to the people of the Jaahiliyyah.

The
Muslim should avoid such behaviour, and save himself from such destructive
thinking. Submitting to the decree of Allaah is obligatory, and accepting
it is one of the attributes of the believers.

Moreover,
the virtue of girls is not unknown, for they are our mothers and sisters,
and wives. They are one half of society which gives birth to the other
half, so it is as if they are the entire society. See Tuhfat
al-Mawlood fi Ahkaam al-Mawlood by Ibn al-Qayyim, p. 16.

Another
indication of their virtue is the fact that Allaah calls their coming
a gift (something which is bestowed), and mentions them before the males
in the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):

“He
bestows female (offspring) upon whom He wills, and bestows male (offspring)
upon whom He wills” [al-Shooraa 42:49]

The
Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) also
explained their virtue and urged kind treatment of them, as he said:
“Whoever is tested by means of these girls, and he treats them with
kindness, they will be a protection for him from the Fire.” (Narrated
by al-Bukhaari, 1418, with al-Fath;
Muslim, 2729).

 

al-Eemaan bi’l-Qadaa’ wa’l-Qadar by Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem al-Hamad, p. 160