Also, after we did autopsy we found out that his death was not because of strangulation but because his spinal cord broke. Actually what happened was, there was a swing made out of a cloth for my kid in the room. My brother he took a stool which was nearby and tied it around his neck saying i will take my life. My mother was in the same room, praying. We feel it was not suicide, maybe it was his anger which made him do this.
His friends tell us that he was not the kind to commit suicide. In fact he used to advice his friends against it if they mentioned it.
His funeral was also good and his face did not look like he was suffering or anything. It looked like he was sleeping and we just had to wake him up. Does this indicate
Please reply to this as we are very troubled by this sudden demise.
In dealing with these questions we must note three things,
1 – Everything happens by the will and decree of Allaah.
Everything that happens in this universe, good or bad, happens by the decree
of Allaah, under His control and by His will, for there is no lord except
Him and no controller besides Him.
2 – We must believe that He is wise in all that He decrees,
for His is the utmost wisdom in all that happens in this universe, whether
we understand that or not. Indeed, much of Allaah’s wisdom cannot be
comprehended by the minds of His slaves. So we must submit to Allaah, by
believing that His wisdom is perfect. It is not permissible for us to object
to Him, whether that means objecting to His laws or to His decrees.
3 – Suicide is a major sin and a bad end. The one who kills
himself in order to escape calamities or poverty or the results of distress
or anger has, by doing that, exposed himself to the punishment of Allaah.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“… And do not kill yourselves (nor kill one another).
Surely, Allaah is Most Merciful to you.
And whoever commits that through aggression and injustice,
We shall cast him into the Fire, and that is easy for Allaah”
And it was narrated in
al-Saheehayn that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) said: “Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron, that iron will
be in his hand and he will be stabbing himself in the stomach with it in
Hell for ever and ever. Whoever kills himself with poison, that poison will
be in his hand and he will be drinking it in Hell…”
Whatever happened in this case, we must refer the matter to
Allaah. What appears to be the case is that what happened was suicide,
because he hung himself, i.e., he tied a rope around his neck and strangled
himself. So either he committed suicide or he wanted to commit suicide. And
Allaah knows best.
As for the righteousness of the parents, this does not mean
that Allaah will not test them with some calamities, so as to show their
patience and so as to erase thereby their sins. For the believer’s whole
affair is good: if something good happens to him he gives thanks for it, and
that is good for him, and if something bad happens to him, he bears it with
patience, and that is good for him, and this applies only to the believer.
So being tested with calamities does not mean that the believer is
insignificant before Allaah if he is righteous and obeys Allaah. For belief
in Allaah, obeying Him and fearing Him are the means that lead to one being
honoured by Allaah, and kufr, immorality and disobedience are the means that
lead to one being regarded as worthless by Allaah. Whoever is tested with
some calamity and bears that with patience, that will raise him in status.
Calamities are of different kinds, it may be a sickness, or loss of wealth,
or loss of a loved one such as a son, brother, father, husband or wife.
Allaah tests His slaves with ease and with calamities, with good and bad, as
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“and We shall make a trial of you with evil and with good.
And to Us you will be returned”[al-Anbiya’ 21:35]
If the suicide stemmed
from ignorance and the person was righteous and obeyed Allaah, and prayed
regularly, then there is the hope that Allaah may forgive him, for He is the
Most Merciful of those who show mercy. However, if he knew of the ruling on
suicide, but he resorted to that in order to get rid of a problem from which
he was suffering, then there is the danger that he is included in the
warning of the punishment narrated in the hadeeth. But nevertheless he was
still a believer in Allaah and His Messenger and a follower of Tawheed, not
a mushrik, so he is subject to the will of Allaah. If Allaah wills He will
forgive him, and if He wills he will punish him, but even if He punishes him
He will eventually bring him forth from the Fire, because Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“Verily, Allaah forgives not that partners should be set
up with Him (in worship), but He forgives except that (anything else) to
whom He wills”[al-Nisa’ 4:48]
And the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Everyone who says Laa
ilaaha ill-Allaah (there is no god except Allaah) and has an
atom’s-weight of faith in his heart will be brought forth from the Fire.”
With regard to his washing and preparation for burial, and
his good appearance, that may indeed be a sign that his situation is good,
that the consequences will be good for him and that he is excused and
forgiven by his Lord. But we cannot be certain about any of these things,
although these signs may give us hope. If the one who committed suicide was
a Muslim, a follower of Tawheed and one who prayed regularly, then we can
show kindness towards him by praying for forgiveness for him and asking
Allaah to forgive him his sins, and to forgive him for whatever he did to
himself that ended up in suicide.
With regard to what is said in the question criticizing the
way which Allaah chose for him to die, this is a kind of objecting to the
decree of Allaah. Allaah is the One Who decrees; He is the Creator of all
things, and all things are subject to His decree. He is the Most Wise, the
All-Knowing, but whatever action is done that goes against His law cannot be
justified by saying that this is the decree of Allaah. Whatever happens in
the universe of such events does not mean that it is permissible to object
to the decree of Allaah, rather we are obliged to believe in the Divine
decree and in the Wisdom of the Lord, may He be glorified and exalted.
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